I would rather travel the world than have kids. Deal with it

Choosing globetrotting over motherhood does not make me a bad person.

Anonymous Naari
जुलाई 31, 2017

I don't wish to become a mother ever. Photo Courtesy: YouTube/ BollywoodShowbiz

Just four months into the marriage and I am already getting hounded with suggestions and tips on how to become a good mother. Moreover, everyone's already anticipating the 'good news' with unnecessary eagerness. But I, on the other hand, have very different plans for myself. I don't wish to become a mother. Ever. Shocked? Well, I am not surprised. This is the sort reaction I get when I tell people that I am more than happy to choose globetrotting over motherhood.

Yes, this may defy the conventional norm but it most definitely does not make me a 'bad woman'.

Motherhood Should Be A Choice And Not A Compulsion

All women are expected to get married at a ripe age, procreate, and become a mother. Those, who are unwilling to conform to the societal norm are branded as 'modern' and 'loose'. The society is more than eager to convince them to change their decision by making them see the joys of motherhood. Motherhood is a blessing, indeed. But, it should be a product of choice and not compulsion.

Most people are left pretty confused when I tell that motherhood doesn't interest me. And I harbour dreams of visiting every country in the world and travel all my life. It doesn't take a second for people to point out that it's my 'duty' towards my husband to bear his offspring. Well, I certainly don't think so. Because…

I Love Kids But Motherhood Is Not My Ultimate Goal In Life

Don't get me wrong--I absolutely adore kids. In fact, I often end up jumping with joy whenever any member of my girl gang breaks the news of her pregnancy. But, no matter how hard it seems to comprehend--motherhood is not for me. Yup, I dream of sitting on a rock surrounded by pristine green hills, walking cobbled streets of a quaint town in Eastern Europe, and lying under the northern lights completely mesmerized by their beauty. These are my life goals. So, when someone tells me that I should replace them with the idea of motherhood--I really don't agree with them.

Travelling Can Be Fulfilling Too

I am certainly not disregarding motherhood and everything that comes along with it in favour of travelling. Also, those who say motherhood is fulfilling, I completely agree with them. Moreover, it's not a case of motherhood vs travelling because you can certainly do both. All I am trying to say is that like some people find joy in rearing children and tending to their needs, I find immense happiness in travelling. And there's nothing in this world I can replace it with--not even motherhood. As far as I am concerned, travelling is fulfilling AF.

Seeing The World Will Bring Me More Joy Than Changing Nappies

To each her own, right? While some women find joy in rearing children, sue me for not harbouring these dreams. I would be a much happier person experiencing new cultures, meeting new people, and eating a diverse cuisine without the responsibility to tend to my little ones. No matter how insane or unconventional it may sound, but travelling the world will make me much happier than changing nappies.