The diary of a 24-year-old eligible bachelorette, who is mentally unprepared to get married

 

Usually, it's the parents who always have some anecdotes to share of their kids growing older. In my case, however, it's the other way round as I'm going to be discussing the growth of my parents. I've really seen a tremendous change in them, But, I'm not exactly pleased to have witnessed it.

From "concentrate on your board exams" to "leave your books aside and get ready;" from "no going out with guys" to "just look at his picture once;" "from no boyfriends" to "it's time to get married"--I'm astounded by their prolific growth and my not-so-prolific reverse ageing.

Perhaps, My Case is Worse Than Benjamin Button's
Because I too started off by playing ghar-ghar with my friends during childhood and pretending that I had a husband. Then I gradually shifted to "bachpan se hi mujhe shadi karne ka bada craze hai by God" during my teenage years.

Now, that I am 24, my parents have finally succumbed to my childhood wishes. But, I want them to actually go back in time to their strict no-guys policy they had enforced back in the days. Because you know what? Just the mention of the word 'marriage' is potent enough to make me want to throw up. Not because I've had a turbulent experience that has shattered my faith in the institution, but because I simply don't think I'm ready for it yet.

To Be Honest, Marriage Isn't Just a Laddu, It's a Frickin' Exotic Chocolate Mousse
Simply because taking the easy way out, compromising on my career, and settling down with someone who can look after my needs tempts me just as much as the exotic chocolate mousse does. But what do you do if you want to stay in shape? You simply ignore the temptation and move the hell on because you know that this resistance will pay you off in the future. That's exactly what I do.

After All, You Never Know When Your Soulmate Turns Into An A*****emate
There's no denying the fact that coming home to someone you love is great. But life is uncertain you never know how things pan out between you and your partner. What if things don't work out? What do you do then? Well, in that case, you have a sound career to focus on and the luxury of being financially independent. At least that's what I have in mind.

No, I'm not a pessimist, but I am definitely a realist, who likes to be prepared for everything in life. Hence, it career first for me.

Fine! I Plead Guilty Of Secretly Judging My Married Friends
Especially those who have had babies already. I mean, first you have the audacity to get married that early in life. On top of it you even start popping out kids within a year.

How the f**k are you supposed to have babies, when you're a baby yourself? Whatever happened to taking precautions before having sex? Whatever happened to ignoring the "pota-chahiye" demands of mummy ji, bua ji, chichi ji, etc, and using your own brains for a change?

Age Is Indeed Just a Number
And it has taken me 24 years to realize that. Now I know that you get married not because you're a 20-something, but because it feels right and you really want to take the plunge. You do it because you know that you're ready to take on the responsibility of living with a new family and of being fully committed to someone.

So, no matter how much Seema/Bubbly/Laado/Dolly/Holly/Molly aunty tells my mother about their nieces getting married at 19, and no matter how many times I'm told that I am next in line at my cousins' wedding, I won't succumb to the pressure.

Also read: 8 things your nosy relatives say when you're the 'eligible bachelorette' in the family.