Getting cold feet? 5 signs it's more than just wedding jitters

Just because you have said yes to a certain proposal, doesn't mean you are emotionally ready to commit. Photo: Shutterstock/ IndiaPicture

It's absolutely normal to get cold feet before your wedding; and why not? You are about to venture into new pastures and leave behind things that are familiar. You will be somebody's chachi, bhabhi, mami, and what not. It sure is scary as hell. However, if your thoughts are giving you sleepless nights and you are stressed to the extent that you can't even function on a daily basis, then maybe it's time for some serious thinking.

Here are a few signs that you should consider as warning bells.

D-Day Spells Doom To You
While most girls are super exited about that bridal huha, there are a few who would trade anything in the world to escape it. Let's make one thing clear here: the fear does not steam from the tedious process one has to go through to resemble a seven-tier cake. It extends well beyond that.

Chances are--you might be suffering from gamophobia, but don't know it. Gamophobia is the fear of getting married, being in a relationship, or commitment. Now, if this does ring a bell, then maybe you should seek counselling before it's too late.

You Are Getting Married Just To Make Others Happy
Why am I getting married? This is a question you must have clear answers for. Is it because you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings, or are you just succumbing to  social/paternal pressure? If you've answered yes to the above questions--you need to take a reality check.

The reason why you are having such a hard time is simply because you are not ready for it. Moreover, you are making the biggest decision of your life based on what other's feel. No wonder, you can't come to terms with it.

You Avoid Talking About the Future
Imagine this: you are getting married in the next six months and your friends ask you about your honeymoon plans. You have absolutely no clue because you haven't discussed it with your partner! Ladies, if you avoid talking about the future, it's because you have a hard time picturing it. The best way to clear your doubts is to sit with your hubby-to-be and have a chat. If you just can't let go of your apprehensions, tell him.

You Don't Give a Damn About The Wedding Preparations
It's okay if you are not much of a party planner. However, it's your wedding, which means there should be at least some amount of interest. Complete lack of curiosity means only one thing--you don't give a damn! Now, if the day holds no relevance as far as you are concerned, how do you plan to spend the rest of your life redeeming the relationship?

Being a 'Mrs' Scares the Shit Out Of You
There are some of us who are way too much in love with the 'single' life. The liberty to take decisions on your own, and the sweetness of freedom are too much to let go of. If you are in the habit of living your life sans any interference, it's but obvious that you do not welcome intruders--even if it's just your husband.

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